19 Harsh Truths About Life

These harsh truths about life might ruffle some feathers, but they must be said. Once you hit a certain age and have experienced some things you realize more and more that life is a continuous learning lesson. Some things you can control and some you can’t.

1. No matter what you do, not everyone will like you.

You could be one of the sweetest, nicest, or most loving people in the world. There will be people that are not so fond of you and you will not be able to regulate that. It could stem from jealousy or insecurity, either way, it is something you cannot 100% avoid.

2. Attractive people do get the better end of the stick.

Unfortunately, looks do matter whether we like it or not. We live in a judgmental, and shallow society, that places attractive people on a pedestal. The better you look, the better you’re treated, the more you are respected, and the more opportunities you receive.

3. Love comes when you least expect it. Not when you go looking for it.

It will come into your life and you may be ready for it or you may not if you’re ready, good. If you’re not ready, you’ll get prepared for the right person. Trust the process. True love is beautiful.

4. Consuming alcohol and drugs harms you more than it helps you.

Two of the most toxic habits we can participate in. Yes, drinking can be fun! Doing drugs pumps adrenaline. Both even might make you feel better temporarily, but depending on them can make you stagnant, and lazy, and even harm you physically. When done excessively, both can take years from your life. If you can cut back on them, good. If you can cut them out of your life, even better!

Read: Toxic Habits to Stop for A Better Life

5. If you don’t heal from your childhood, it will affect most of your adult relationships.

We have been taught or have seen things that we need to grow out of or unlearn. If not done so early on, it can be very hard to escape. After all, the first step is acknowledging the things you need to unlearn.

6. Money doesn’t buy happiness, but it does improve your quality of life.

Many people believe the more money you make, the happier you will be. This could be true for some people, as money can solve most of our problems. However, money is never the root cause of happiness. Which comes from within.

7. Ignoring the red flags in a person the first few times around is self-sabotage.

This goes for friends, potential partners, and families. When people show you who they are believe them. It’s hard to change things you don’t like about someone when that is who they truly are. You’re only hurting yourself when you choose to stick around.

8. The people you choose to keep in your circle are very important.

Unfortunately, birds of a feather do flock together. The people you associate with are the same people you tend to pick habits from. If you’re not growing with each other, learning from each other, and helping each other elevate–then you do not need them around. You should always be around people who are in the position you want to be in or you’d like to learn from.

9. Women are sexualized way too early on.

From an early age, women are judged based on their bodies and sexualized based on how developed they are at a very young age. There are weird men out there and horny teenage boys. No matter how innocent she is, there will be boys trying to convince her not to be. Unless she is kept in a cage, there is no way to avoid this.

10. Sex without love is meaningless.

Maturing is realizing sex without a connection is pointless and not the reward we think it is. Emotional security before sex is what makes it special and rewarding to your mind, body, and soul altogether. Stop punishing your body.

11. If you let someone borrow money, never expect it back.

If they had the money, they would have never asked to borrow it in the first place. Some people will pay you the money back but is it rare they do. And if you do get the money back that person truly just didn’t have it at that moment.

12. Expectations lead to nothing but disappointments.

When you expect things and they don’t happen, you tend to become disappointed. If you didn’t expect anything in the first place, then disappointment simply wouldn’t happen.

13. The biggest lesson about becoming an adult is unlearning all the BS you were taught as a child.

The older you get the more you begin to alter your one views and decisions. Which are sometimes different than what you were taught coming up.

14. Death is going to happen, we just don’t know when.

Death is inevitable, it will come and we can’t avoid it. We just hope it comes later than we expect.

15. Just because you have been friends with a person for a long time, does not mean you have to stay friends.

People outgrow one another and that is perfectly fine. However, hanging on to someone because of the length or history serves no purpose. Think of the current state of the relationship and what purpose it truly serves in your current life.

16. You can do everything right and still lose.

Some things will not always work out the way you expect them to, but that doesn’t mean you didn’t do the right thing.

17. Don’t rely on or expect closure.

Relying on closure is waiting for permission from someone to finally move on. Don’t wait on it, ask for it, or expect it…just begin the moving-on process. Learn to accept things for what they are.

18. If you don’t respect yourself, people will see it.

If you don’t respect yourself, it will be clear as day and people will treat you as such. Begin to value yourself and others will as well.

19. If you hurt someone, they will remember it forever.

We tend to never forget our bullies from grade school, the person who broke our hearts the most, or friends/families that betray us. We can most certainly forgive, but we rarely ever forget.

Thanks for reading! Comment some of your harsh truths below!