10 Questions For A Personal Growth Challenge

Here is a list of ten questions I asked myself that you can also ask yourself if you feel you may need to heal or for your own personal development and growth. Write down your answers to each question and really reflect on how to move forward in your own way.

1. Why am I allowing myself to be treated this way?

The way you allow others to treat you has everything to do with your self-esteem, self-love, and self-respect; which is something I struggled with for a while. Without those three components, it can be hard to see yourself as somewhat valuable. If you don’t see yourself that way, then no one else will.

2. What are my flaws?

Being able to identify and analyze your flaws is an easy step to becoming the best version of yourself. It’s a plus when you can also identify the root of each flaw so that it makes it easier to get rid of. A flaw of mine is I tend to shut down and disappear because I want to avoid conflict. I also detach easily, to avoid getting hurt.

3. How do you see yourself?

I said this before and I’m going to keep saying it. How you view yourself sets the tone for how others view you. When you see your worth, you’ll stop seeing people who don’t.

4. What habits are hindering your growth?

These habits include things that are slowing you down and can easily be avoided with discipline. For me, I stopped smoking, stopped carelessly drinking, limited my tv consumption, and giving so much of my time to certain people. Although there are many more, dropping these alone gave me so much progress.

5. Are you living for others or for yourself?

When I began making my own decisions that I thought were the best for me, is when I became happier. I stopped listening to my parents or anyone else who had an opinion on what they thought I should’ve been doing. Yes, some people have experience and wisdom but they don’t have the path to your life in their back pocket.

6. Who are letting have access to you that shouldn’t?

Cleansing your environment of toxic things and people is detrimental to personal growth. Individuals who aren’t on the same wavelength as you won’t contribute to you in any way. In fact, their ways might rub off on you. You should always spend more time with people who bring out the best in you. How can you grow with someone who has an unwillingness to elevate?

7. Are you accepting the bare minimum?

It wasn’t until recently that I realized that the red flags you ignore in the beginning are always the reason things end. When someone shows you who they are the first time, it’s literally who they are it’s not a façade. If you accept the bare minimum in the beginning, you will always get the bare minimum. Set a standard and stick to it, this is a part of knowing your worth. When you choose to settle for less than you know you deserve, then maybe less is what you truly deserve.

8. How far are you willing to let things get worse?

How did we let it get this far? At some point you have to really sit down and tell yourself, I don’t want this for myself any longer. When it came to a certain situation, I let things get so bad I didn’t know who I was anymore. And from that point on, things didn’t go any farther.

9. Does everyone deserve a second chance?

This question is to your own discretion. Personally, I don’t see any harm in second chances depending on the situation of course. A third and fourth chance is just giving people the opportunity to play with you. I had to learn the hard way that nothing good comes out of chances that come in 3s or more. Giving people the benefit of the doubt is nice but stupid.

10. How do you spend most of your free time?

When I sat back and realized that most of my free time was spent doing the bad habits I talked about in question #4, I realized that I was never going to get where I needed to be. So I cut them out one by one and I don’t even feel like the same person most of the time. Someone once told me, that your future depends on your everyday habits.