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  • The Impact of Hookup Culture On Women’s Emotional Well-Being

    The Impact of Hookup Culture On Women’s Emotional Well-Being

    Hookup culture is a popular movement today that empowers sexual liberation. The question is, is it hurting us or helping us?

    Without the expectation of a committed relationship, hookup culture promotes sexual liberation and casual hookups as a means to satisfy something deeper. Why are people so supportive of hookup culture? Let’s talk about it.

    What is sex meant for?

    Sexual Intercourse between two individuals is meant for married people. What most people don’t realize is that sex is very different for women than it is for men. Women are more likely to become emotionally attached to people they have sex with, unlike most men. Well, how are women participating in hookup culture?

    Studies show that women who are actively participating in casual sex with no strings attached are more than likely damaged emotionally in some capacity. Almost always, someone ends up wanting something more, resulting in someone getting hurt.

    Sex is also meant for reproduction, so it’s important not to have sex with someone you would not raise a child with for the rest of your life. It is a sacred act that expresses love and emotional connection with a lover. Not to be done casually.

    Men benefit from hookup culture; women don’t.

    Most men (or little boys) love the idea of casual relationships, no real responsibility, no one to hold them accountable, and no one extra they’re obligated to spend their money on. So, as long as they meet a woman with no real expectations except a physical relationship, they win. Men and women view sexual intercourse in two totally different ways. Women see sex as an emotional bonding experience, and men see sex as an activity.

    Men have penises; women have vaginas…if you are sexually active, then you know that the penis entering the vagina is how sexual intercourse takes place. With that being said, men are the givers, and women are the receivers. Women are on the receiving end of whatever men give them.

    Conversely, women will agree or find themselves in a casual situation, thinking they can do it later to find out they can’t. Women are emotional beings in nature. As emotional beings, we naturally crave love and emotional support, especially from those we deeply care about. Everything we do often always has our emotions tied to it. Having sex with strangers or someone you’re not emotionally invested in can be harmful to your mental health. It can often lead you to feel used and emotionally unsatisfied. Which is not how a woman is supposed to operate.

    You must respect your body.

    You must realize that you are worth far more than you are giving out. Something most women who partake in casual relationships don’t know is that they’re degrading themselves. Sex is a sacred act between two people who are committed to each other. This means that it is not something that should be done casually.

    Causal sex can lead to emotional distress versus sex in a committed relationship and marriage. This tends to lead to feelings of regret and emptiness. When a woman is deprived emotionally, she cannot operate in a way a feminine woman should. Feminine women do not partake in casual sex.

    There are a plethora of risky health concerns that can result in having casual sex, such as STIs and unplanned pregnancies. Trying to avoid an unplanned pregnancy can be detrimental to the body as well since taking too many plan Bs can result in infertility. One of the most important responsibilities God gave women on earth was to give life. It is not something that should mistakenly happen.

    Be careful about who you choose to lay with, it’s an expensive cost.

  • Double Standards And Gender Roles In Today’s Modern Society

    Double Standards And Gender Roles In Today’s Modern Society

    We’re in the 21st century and I think it’s safe to say that the gender role argument has many opposing sides. Women have begun to take the lead while most men can’t handle the pressure of being in charge anymore. Well, here’s my take on gender roles and the double standards that come with them.

    Women are incapable of making decisions because they’re naturally emotional beings.

    Decades ago, women had to fight for equal rights in the workforce because women were supposed to be housewives and housewives only. America has been run by men for decades. Today, women are in more leadership positions than ever before, making important decisions. Why was this something women had to fight for in the first place? Because men think women are emotional creatures who aren’t capable of making high-level decisions. We may as well be monkeys, right?

    In my opinion, women are better decision-makers because of their emotional capabilities. To make certain decisions, you must be able to separate your heart from your head. Which is something highly intelligent men and women are both capable of doing. After all, God chose women to create life and that alone says a lot.

    Men can’t show emotions because it makes them look weak.

    Most men may not agree because of how society may view them, but vulnerability is a great characteristic to possess. In fact, vulnerability makes you a great leader. It is a way to form trust and without trust, as a leader, you won’t have many followers. When a man shows vulnerability, it means he is emotionally intelligent. If you have a conversation with a man about vulnerability, he’ll talk about how he doesn’t show any emotion because he grew up being told that it was a form of weakness–that men should not be weak.

    When they conform to it, that is what we like to call toxic masculinity and it is sad that our parents have instilled this in them. Toxic masculinity affects everyone, whether they know it or not. Men should instead choose to heal from this ideology, so their children aren’t affected. They also need to hear that their feelings matter and that it is not healthy to hold them back. As an adult, you’re totally in control of how you choose to live your life despite how you were taught to live it. Men must learn the art of healing, and fully live the way they want to live regardless of how society views them. The idea is to let go of double standards and gender roles are what’s setting the double standards in place.

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    Men pay for the household, while Women take care of it.

    Now that we’re in 2021 (as I’m writing this, there are 24 days until 2022), I think it’s safe to say that my generation has started putting an end to gender role stereotypes. Women are making their own money which doesn’t leave much room for a man to be in charge. Now, there is nothing wrong with this but a lot of people that follow this structure, don’t follow the bible. According to the bible, the husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. My generation no longer conforms to the roles that were set for them. According to Glocalilties.com‘s Meet Gen z article, gender role flexibility could mean that boys are allowed to be emotional and girls are allowed to be strong, breaking ‘traditional’ role patterns–redefining gender roles and challenging patriarchy.

    Recently, a picture of a little boy with a kitchen set went viral. It caused some outrage because most believe the notion that only women belong in the kitchen. What most people don’t realize is that cooking, cleaning, and household chores are basic life skills. What if you don’t have a woman in your life for a certain amount of time? You won’t cook, clean your house, or do your laundry? Life skills should not belong to a specific gender. If my son had a dream of becoming a chef and wanted a kitchen set, I’d buy him a kitchen set. At least he’ll have a dream and that’s all that matters. It is only your duty to support that dream, not take it away from him.

    Sexual liberation for men and women isn’t the same thing.

    According to the APA Dictionary of Psychology, sexual liberation is defined as “the state of being free from sexual mores or inhibitions that are considered restrictive.” No specific gender is pointed at in that definition. If a woman is sexually liberated, she’s frowned upon. If a man is sexually liberated, he is praised. I do believe that you have to have a certain mindset to be a sexually liberated woman. You have to be confident and not have a care in the world what anyone thinks. Not everyone is capable of this. Some people see it as freedom; to be able to express themselves through physical contact with another person.

    There’s this myth that women can’t have casual sex because they’re not able to separate their feelings from the situation. Although this can depend on the person, I’m here to tell you that men can’t do it either. If you’re a human with feelings it can be hard for anyone. People need to throw away the myth that men can easily deceive their feelings without remorse when they hurt just like any human would. Is it a bad thing to want to satisfy your needs without any attachment? A friend once told me that individuals who can achieve a casual sexationship are empty souls, some say they are mentally strong and free-willing. Perceptions and experiences are key factors in these double standards and gender roles.