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  • 8 Key Signs of a Truly Confident Woman

    8 Key Signs of a Truly Confident Woman

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    A truly confident woman is like meeting a rare gem – they exude a unique aura that captivates everyone in their presence. But what sets them apart from the rest?

    She embraces her flaws and imperfections, never letting them define her worth. Her unapologetic authenticity shines through in her interactions and engagements, attracting others like a magnet.

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    One of the hallmarks of a confident woman is her ability to take risks and step outside her comfort zone. Whether pursuing her passions or embracing new opportunities, she embraces the unknown with open arms, embracing growth and self-discovery.

    By understanding these traits, we can all cultivate and nurture our inner confidence, paving the way for success and fulfillment in every aspect of our lives.

    1. Self-Assured In Her Own Skin

    A confident woman is comfortable and self-assured in her own skin. She embraces her unique qualities and appreciates her individuality. She doesn’t seek validation from others or compare herself to unrealistic standards. Instead, she celebrates her strengths and accepts her weaknesses with grace.

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    Self-assurance comes from a deep understanding and acceptance of oneself. A confident woman knows her worth and doesn’t let external opinions define her. She recognizes that her value extends far beyond her appearance or achievements.

    In a world that often pressures women to conform to societal expectations, a confident woman stands tall, breaking free from the mold. She embraces her own definition of beauty and contradicts the idea that her worth is tied to superficial standards. This self-assurance radiates from within and inspires others to embrace their own uniqueness.

    2. Embraces Her Imperfections

    Nobody is perfect, and a confident woman understands this truth. Rather than striving for perfection, she embraces her imperfections and sees them as opportunities for growth and self-improvement. She recognizes that her flaws make her human and relatable, allowing her to connect with others on a deeper level.

    Embracing imperfections requires vulnerability and self-acceptance. A confident woman knows she doesn’t need to hide behind a façade of perfection. Instead, she embraces her quirks, insecurities, and mistakes, using them as stepping stones towards personal development.

    By accepting her imperfections, a confident woman frees herself from the burden of unrealistic expectations. She understands that true beauty and strength lie in authenticity and vulnerability. This type of self-compassion creates a positive ripple effect, inspiring others to embrace their own imperfections and live authentically.

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    3. Takes Ownership of Her Successes and Failures

    Confidence is not just about celebrating successes; it’s also about taking ownership of failures. A truly confident woman doesn’t shy away from acknowledging her mistakes or shortcomings. Instead, she takes responsibility for her actions and learns from them.

    Taking ownership of successes and failures requires humility and self-reflection. A confident woman recognizes that failure is not a reflection of her worth but an opportunity for growth. She approaches setbacks with resilience and uses them as fuel to propel herself forward.

    Moreover, a confident woman doesn’t downplay her achievements or attribute them solely to luck or external factors. She acknowledges her hard work, skills, and dedication, giving credit where it is due. By acknowledging her successes and failures alike, she sets an example for others to take ownership of their journey.

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    4. Sets Boundaries and Says No When Necessary

    Confidence comes with the ability to set boundaries and prioritize self-care. A confident woman knows her limits and isn’t afraid to say no when necessary. She understands that her time and energy are valuable and deserve protection.

    Setting boundaries requires assertiveness and self-awareness. A confident woman communicates her needs and expectations clearly, without guilt or apology. She understands that saying no to certain things allows her to say yes to what truly matters.

    By setting boundaries, a confident woman creates a healthy balance in her life. She prioritizes her well-being and avoids burnout. This self-care not only benefits her but also sets an example for others to prioritize their own needs and establish healthy boundaries.

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    5. Celebrates the Success of Others

    A truly confident woman doesn’t feel threatened or envious of the success of others. Instead, she celebrates and supports them wholeheartedly. She understands that someone else’s success does not diminish her own worth or potential.

    Celebrating the success of others requires a secure sense of self. A confident woman knows that there is enough success and abundance for everyone and believes in the power of uplifting others. She genuinely cheers on others’ achievements, offering encouragement and support.

    By celebrating the success of others, a confident woman creates a positive and empowering environment. She fosters a culture of collaboration rather than competition, inspiring others to embrace their unique journey and achieve their goals.

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    6. Takes Risks and Embraces Challenges

    A confident woman is unafraid to take risks and step outside her comfort zone. She understands that growth and success often require pushing boundaries and embracing challenges. She welcomes new opportunities with an open mind and a willingness to learn.

    Taking risks and embracing challenges requires courage and resilience. A confident woman trusts in her abilities and believes in her capacity to overcome obstacles. She understands that failure is not something to fear but a stepping stone towards growth and self-discovery.

    By taking risks and embracing challenges, a confident woman continuously expands her horizons. She welcomes new experiences and learns from both success and failure. This fearlessness inspires others to step out of their comfort zones and pursue their own passions and dreams.

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    7. Practices Self-Care and Prioritizes Her Well-Being

    Confidence is not just about outward appearances; it also stems from taking care of oneself. A confident woman prioritizes her well-being and practices self-care regularly. She understands the importance of nurturing her mind, body, and spirit.

    A confident woman listens to her body’s needs and takes proactive steps to maintain her physical and mental health. Whether it’s through exercise, meditation, or pursuing hobbies, she dedicates time to recharge and rejuvenate.

    By prioritizing self-care, a confident woman sets an example for others to prioritize their own well-being. She recognizes that taking care of oneself is not selfish but necessary for personal growth and happiness. This self-nurturing mindset inspires others to prioritize their own self-care journey.

    8. Inspires and Uplifts Others

    Perhaps one of the most significant traits of a truly confident woman is her ability to inspire and uplift others. She leads by example, motivating those around her to embrace their own unique qualities and pursue their dreams.

    An inspiring and uplifting woman radiates positivity and encouragement. She believes in the potential of others and empowers them to reach their full potential. Her kind words and actions create a ripple effect, spreading confidence and motivation to those she interacts with.

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    By inspiring and uplifting others, a confident woman creates a supportive community. She fosters an environment where everyone feels valued and encouraged. Her impact reaches far beyond her immediate circle, leaving a lasting legacy of empowerment and inspiration.

    Embracing confidence

    Confidence is not a destination but a journey of self-discovery and growth.

    Let us strive to become the best versions of ourselves, radiating the aura of a truly confident woman. As we embark on this journey, may we inspire and uplift others, creating a world where confidence is celebrated and nurtured. Together, we can embrace our uniqueness and unlock our full potential, paving the way for success and fulfillment in every aspect of our lives.

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    Remember, confidence is not about being perfect; it’s about embracing our flaws and imperfections with grace. It’s about believing in ourselves and having the courage to pursue our dreams.

  • Is Quitting The New Form of Self-Care?

    Is Quitting The New Form of Self-Care?

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    Employees are no longer sacrificing their mental health.

    Thoughts of quiet quitting, loud quitting, and even fantasy quitting occupied many of my friends’ minds after the topic surfaced on social media for a few months. Just last year, my friends and I were fresh out of college and happily running full speed into the business world. However, now they look like disappointed toddlers if the word “work” is even uttered. Sadly, this is the reaction many employees have when discussing their careers.

    Multiple social media users have proudly announced leaving their jobs to enter new fields, some have bluntly quit with no backup plans and others have even celebrated getting fired. Yes, you read that correctly, celebrated being fired! Their reactions have me wondering if quitting is becoming the new form of self-care or even just a desperate moment for a breath of fresh air.

    Growing up my mother would always say, “desperate people, do desperate things.” I never realized the true meaning behind it until that day.

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    My friend called me and said she did the unthinkable, quit! All my friends immediately did a “Deliver Us From Eva” moment. Everyone hurried on the phone to comfort her with words that seemed to be difficult to find. We talked for hours while digging deep into her reasons for quitting. 

    My other friends even talked about their reasons for wanting to quit. We realized everyone’s reasons were no different than the reasons we read online. For them, it was a relief to know they weren’t expecting perfection. I have listed down below poor decisions or experiences that led employees to leave their jobs. 

    1. Lacking A Internship – She contributed to her defeat

    One of my friends admitted that obtaining no prior experience led to her leaving the company. On paper, the job was everything she could have asked for, but the reality was she hated it. She said she felt the company made the position sound sweeter than it was. However, it all boiled down to her not going after an internship for that specific role in college. Instead, she ran after all the wrong things.

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    2. Lack Of Diversity – Companies contribute to the loss of good employees

    It is necessary for every employee to see a reflection of themselves within the company, especially in leadership. I’m not sure how to explain it, but seeing someone that looks like I do, gives me a touch of comfort.

    Example: Watching a Black man or another Black woman in a leadership position gives me a boost of confidence! ! Most importantly, it sets an example of what I can do.

    Refusing Salary Increases – Companies, just lost another one

    I watched a video of Viola Davis speaking about the lack of payment within the acting industry. I have witnessed my friends speak of the lack of pay within their field. The cost of living has risen for Nashville, but jobs are refusing to increase employees’ salaries.

    Employees can not do their best if they’re stressed about paying utilities or rent. It is difficult to focus when something lingers in the back of someone’s head.

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    3. Burn-out – Companies and employers have contributed to this defeat

    According to the world health organization, burnout syndrome is a result of chronic workplace stress that has not been taken care of. It is described in three dimensions: 

    • feelings of energy depletion or exhaustion
    • increased mental distance from one’s job, or feelings of negativism or cynicism related to one’s job
    • reduced professional efficacy.

    Furthermore, these are the significant consequences of burnout:

    • Excessive stress
    • Fatigue
    • Insomnia
    • Sadness, anger, or irritability
    • Alcohol or substance misuse
    • Heart disease
    • High blood pressure
    • Type 2 diabetes
    • Vulnerability to illnesses

    4. A Toxic Workplace – Multiple Factors Contribute

    Signs of a toxic workplace aren’t as obvious as people would believe. These types of workspaces can act like a bad relationship. Toxic behavior from work associates can be difficult to point out if they are accepted in the workplace. Unfortunately, that is how it all starts. My mother has always said, one poisoned piece of fruit has the ability to spoil an entire bowl of fruit if it stays there long enough.

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    A career site, topresume.com, made a list and labeled it as a sign of a toxic workplace. Here it is:

    • High Turnover: When the work environment has nothing good to offer except dysfunction, poor morale, and sickness, colleagues will start heading for the door to find a better situation. If you notice a high turnover rate in your company or department, take that as a sign of a toxic workplace.
    • Cliques, Gossip, and Rumors: Everyone seems to be out for themselves, and there are no genuine friendships among coworkers. There’s lots of infighting and paranoia as well as office gossip and rumors.
    • Narcissistic Leadership: Your higher-ups or boss demand that you always agree with them, tell them they’re right, and feel they’re above the rules. They expect everyone else to be perfect while they can meet lower standards.
    • Little to No Enthusiasm: Look around the office. Does anyone appear to be happy working there? Is anyone ever smiling? If people typically seem downright miserable to be working at the company, you can assume the work environment is toxic.
    • Employee Sickness: Toxic work environments lead to employee burnout, fatigue, and illness due to high levels of stress that wreak havoc on our bodies. If people are calling in sick or worse, are working sick, that’s a good sign of a toxic work environment.
    • Lack of Communication or Negative Communication: You and others don’t get the necessary information to do your job. You work hard with no positive feedback and no recognition, and you might even be told to be glad you have a job at all.
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    I conclude with my belief, letting go of what causes your mental health to decline is self-care; that counts for your job too.

    According to a wellness site, verywellmind.com, self-care has been defined as “a multidimensional, multifaceted process of purposeful engagement in strategies that promote healthy functioning and enhance well-being.”

    An older woman once told me that a great job will have you serving others while still providing you with a level of fulfillment at the end of the day.

  • 20 Bad Habits To Stop Doing Now To Improve Your Life

    20 Bad Habits To Stop Doing Now To Improve Your Life

    Everyone, including myself, tends to carry some type of bad habit with them. Something we do often that we know we shouldn’t be doing. Sometimes we might not even recognize our bad habits in the first place. Some of these bad habits are small and can be easily broken. While some, you may have some difficulty trying to let go. No one is perfect or alone in this, but the key to a better life is to stop anything unhealthy in the process.

    Image by Angela Yuriko Smith from Pixabay

    I think it’s safe to say that everyone has picked up a bad habit or two due to the COVID-19 lockdown. According to ValuePenguin, 61% of Americans are currently trying to break unhealthy pandemic habits. Which we can all agree was a stressful time for everyone. While everyone copes differently, some may pick up habits that are hard to get rid of. Below is a list of 20 bad habits to stop doing in 2022: 

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    1. Sleeping in late

    Sleeping in is on the top of this of bad habits to stop doing because it can result in extreme laziness. Besides, waking up early and on time results in a more productive and longer-lasting day. You even have time to fit breakfast in, which is the most important meal of the day.

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    2. Complaining

    No one wants to be around someone who complains and nags all day. Complaining is a very negative thing to do because it focuses on what you don’t have, instead of celebrating what you do have. Complaining doesn’t offer a solution. If anything, it makes the situation more difficult to handle.

    3. Saying ‘yes’ to everything

    A lot of people won’t see this as a problem, but over-extending yourself can be very draining. While it is nice for your presence to be desired everywhere, it is impossible to be everywhere at once and not disappoint people. Most people understand this, which is why you should only yes if you want to, not out of guilt.

    4. Too much screen time

    Everyone knows this isn’t a necessarily healthy habit unless you’re being productive. According to research, excessive screentime strains your eyes, causes obesity, depression, anxiety, and chronic neck and back pain.

    5. Lying

    Everyone has done this on occasion but if it’s a habit of yours then you might have a problem. It says a lot about your character. Friedrich Nietzsche once said, “I’m not upset that you lied to me, I’m upset that from now on I can’t believe you.” That line alone tells you why lying is bad.

    6. Watching too much TV

    Spending too much free time watching television can take away productivity for more necessary things. Now, I’m not saying no TV at all, but limit the amount you watch, or you’ll never get anything done. No one likes a couch potato.

    7. Settling because you’re lonely

    Going back to anything or anyone that’s bad for you because you feel lonely is the definition of low self-esteem. In a previous post I wrote about living alone at 22-23 years old and one thing I touched on was loneliness being good for the soul. Once you have mastered the art of being alone, you won’t settle for just anyone or anything.

    8. Spending money you don’t have

    Spending money just because you have it is not setting you up for any type of financial success. If you plan out where your paycheck is going before you get it (other than bills) is like robbing yourself. Next thing you know, your money is gone because you got too excited for payday. Hold off on things you don’t need until you don’t have to anymore.

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    9. People pleasing

    Wondering whether or not people like you or approve of you or anything you do is also a form of low-self esteem. You’ll never be happy constantly seeking the approval of others. It causes anxiety and it makes you look bad. It’s easier said than done but the best thing to do is not care what anyone thinks. The only approval you should seek is your own. That is a huge key to a happy life.

    10. Smoking/Vaping/Doing drugs

    Everyone knows that cigarettes are cancer sticks but any type of smoke going into your lungs is ultimately never good for them. Vaping is becoming more and more popular but it has the same exact effects as cigarettes, we just can’t smell them. Doing drugs has its psychological and physical effects, depending on the drug of course. Either way, doing any of these things is like asking for a shorter life sentence.

    11. Watching too much pornography

    Now don’t get this one confused. We’re not talking about masturbating or having sex, we’re specifically talking about pornography. Many people start off watching porn at a very young age which can make it difficult to stop. Usually, when people get the urge to watch porn they have to act on it immediately. Most people even depend on it. Aside from all of the other things porn does, if you watch too much of it, it can lead to a very disappointing sex life.

    12. Not eating healthy

    Things like diabetes, high blood pressure, tooth decay, etc. all come from what you’re eating. A lot of people blame these things on genetics when in reality, is just an excuse to treat your body poorly. Your body is a temple so you should be very careful with what you put into it.

    13. Biting your nails/fiddling with your hair

    Biting your nail and fiddling with your hair are both habits formed due to an emotional disturbance. Your hands are filthy, especially the fingers. Therefore, biting your fingernails is like eating whatever germs are under your nails. Fiddling with your hair too much could easily lead to the loss of it right before your eyes.

    14. Doubting yourself

    The only person stopping you from being who you want to be is you. Doubt is very normal which makes it very hard to break. The point is to not let your insecurities be detrimental to your progress. Stopping yourself from getting somewhere before you even try is toxic to your own growth.

    15. Living in the past

    Living in the past is harmful because there is nothing you can do to change it. You are holding on to something that is already gone, which stops you from moving forward and living in the present. Don’t corrupt your memories by living in them forever. Let’s make new ones instead.

    16. Not drinking enough water

    Since our bodies are made up of about 70% water, it is important that we maintain those levels for a healthy body and brain functioning. Not drinking enough water can lead to many health problems such as low energy levels, moodiness, headaches, and many more. Therefore, it is suggested that we drink at least eight, 8oz glasses a day.

    17. Procrastinating

    Procrastination is a result of wasted time. Waiting until the very last minute to do something can leave you feeling very heavy or stressed when the time comes to finally do it. You’re probably not giving your best results because you’re cramming everything at once. Most people procrastinate out of fear, feeling overwhelmed, or even self-doubt. Once you are able to identify and break down the task in a way that works best for you, then you’ll be more productive.

    18. Using profanity

    If certain words are not allowed to be said around certain people or at a certain place, then they probably shouldn’t be said. To some people, using profanity can be offensive and to others and lacks common courtesy.

    19. Over-working yourself

    When the workday is over, it means you need to stop working (unless you are getting paid to do so). According to Business News Daily, instead of improving efficiency, after-hours emails hurt job performance. Working too much can also lead to stress and fatigue. Setting boundaries lessens the amount of stress on you and improves performance in the workplace.

    20. Gambling

    Gambling is considered harmless fun to some but too much of can also be considered an addiction. It’s a void, like drinking, smoking, eating unhealthy that most people run to. It can get worse if you let it get the best of you. With gambling, moderation is key.

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  • How Writing Out My Bills Helped Me Earn More Money

    How Writing Out My Bills Helped Me Earn More Money

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    Let me tell you how writing out my bills and expenses helped me out. I was sitting at work one day, constantly thinking about where I was financially and how I got there. I was living paycheck to paycheck at the time and I could not figure out where my money was going. I’m never the type to sit in my own pity, so I decided to take measures. Let me tell you how writing out my bills and expenses helped me out.

    For Motivational Purposes…

    To figure out where my money was going, I sat down and wrote everything out.

    Now, there are two types of people in this world; those that are broke and stay broke until they someday hit the lottery, and those who will do something about it. I’m a firm believer that YOU are in control of your life, so if you aren’t satisfied then you must make the change so you are. All I had to do was figure out the best way to implement my change.

    I was cleaning my apartment one day, listening to an audiobook called Secrets of the Millionaire Mind by T. Harv Eker. One of the most amazing audiobooks I’ve ever listened to; It is truly a must-read. It’s a blueprint on how wealthy people think and contributed a fortune to me putting my goals and aspirations into fruition. Here are a few things that stuck with me the most:

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    • Manifestation is real, so everything begins with your thoughts.
    • Rich people believe “I create my life”, poor people believe “life happens to me”.
    • Get in the game. If you want it, start it.
    • Energy is contagious: either you affect people or infect people.
    • There’s nothing wrong with getting a steady paycheck, unless it interferes with your ability to earn what you’re worth. Which It usually does.

    I won’t share too many key points because I want you all to read/listen to it as well.

    After finishing it, I started my blog and was no longer at a job that was not paying me enough. But of course, this was after I wrote out my monthly bills and expenses. It wasn’t until I added everything up that I realized I had more bills than what I was making. So, instead of eliminating bills to make ends meet, I decided the only solution was that I needed more money. I wasn’t happy at my job and they weren’t paying me enough, so why was I still there?

    Below is an example of what I wrote out half a year ago. I was making $28,000 but with taxes and benefits, this is what my income came out to:

    Me writing out my bills and budget

    Quickly after starting my blog, I knew what type of work I wanted to do. So, I fixed my resume a little, made some adjustments to my LinkedIn, and made sure my website was nice enough for a recruiter to glance at.

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    In my free time, I spent my entire day either working on my blog or applying to an enormous amount of jobs in the field I wanted to work in. I was starting to see some progress but I am so confident in myself that I wasn’t going to accept the first offer just because they were first. Along with the pay, I had to make sure it was a healthy work environment with good hours…I refused to be miserable. I knew my worth and I wasn’t going to sink (I now have a job that I really enjoy and pays me more, remember, never settle).

    Referring back to the line, rich people believe “I create my life”, poor people believe “life happens to me”–I knew it was up to me to be exactly where I wanted to be and if I had the “the world is against me” mentality then I wasn’t going to get far. I spoke it, put action towards it, and it happened. There are circumstances where people feel they lack the proper resources to get where they need to be but there is a way around everything.

    Wealth File #13: Rich people focus on their net worth. Poor people focus on their working income.

    I don’t mind working because working income is important, but having financial value is the true measure of wealth. Along with wanting to make more money, I want to invest long-term. I also know that I need the working income to invest and once I have savings and investments I’ve reached my true pinnacle. On the way to me reaching my pinnacle, I needed more money than just what was paying my bills.

    If you’re living paycheck to paycheck, and you are leaving it up to the Lord to get you out of it; he can only do so much without any action on your part. What’s stopping you from applying for that better-paying job or starting that business venture?

  • Love or Trouble: Recognizing the Biggest Red Flags in a Guy

    Love or Trouble: Recognizing the Biggest Red Flags in a Guy

    Is he the one, or is he in trouble? When it comes to relationships, it’s not always easy to tell. But there are red flags that can help you see through the rose-colored glasses and recognize potential trouble in a guy. This article will delve into the biggest red flags to look out for.

    From controlling behavior to lack of respect, these warning signs can save you from heartache and disappointment. Whether you’re just starting to date someone or you’ve been in a relationship for a while, it’s crucial to be aware of these red flags. We’ll explore behaviors that indicate a lack of commitment, trustworthiness, and compatibility.

    Red flag #1: Lack of communication or inconsistent communication

    Poor communication, or lack thereof, and difficulty expressing and communicating issues is a personal issue that can further lead to frustration and unnecessary misunderstandings. Relationships with a lack of proper communication is a relationship that will not last long if not worked on.

    Red flag #2: Controlling behavior

    Attempts to control your actions, choices, or who you interact with are signs of possessiveness. If they try to isolate you from loved ones, it may be a sign of controlling behavior. When controlling behavior is not addressed, it can often become abusive.

    Red flag #3: Disrespectful or dismissive behavior towards you or others

    Disrespectful behavior towards you or others, including belittling, name-calling, or dismissive attitudes.

    Red flag #4: Jealousy or insecurity that leads to unhealthy behavior

    Excessive jealousy or possessive behavior can be signs of insecurity or trust issues.

    Red flag #5: Dishonesty or a lack of trustworthiness

    Repeated lies or inconsistencies in their stories may indicate a lack of trustworthiness.

    Red flag #6: Anger management issues or a tendency towards aggression

    Frequent outbursts of anger, violence, or unresolved anger issues can be dangerous.

    Red flag #7: Lack of accountability or taking responsibility for their actions

    A guy who doesn’t take accountability likely doesn’t think what he does is wrong, which can lead to resentment.

    Red flag #8: Lack of Financial Responsibility or reckless spending

    Reckless spending, financial secrecy, or manipulation related to money can be problematic.

    By recognizing these signs early on, you can make informed decisions about your love life and potentially save yourself from getting involved with someone who isn’t right for you. Love can be beautiful, but entering it with open eyes is important. By understanding the red flags in a guy, you can confidently navigate the dating world and increase your chances of finding a healthy and fulfilling relationship.

    Remember to trust your instincts and prioritize your safety and well-being in any relationship. If you notice several of these red flags, it may be wise to seek support or consider ending the relationship if necessary.

  • “Know Your Worth Then Add Tax” What Does This Phrase Mean?

    “Know Your Worth Then Add Tax” What Does This Phrase Mean?

    Know your worth, then add tax. What does this mean? It begins with confidence, self-respect, self-worth, and boundaries. These three simple components will help you dodge a lot of chaos in life. Let’s discuss these components and the steps to knowing your worth.

    Living in a scarcity mindset will make you settle for less than you deserve, be undervalued, and rationalize it. You must believe believe it first. You can’t add taxes when the product is free in the first place.

    1. Set the tone

    First impressions last forever. Keep that in mind the first time you introduce yourself to someone. That is when people begin to form the idea of what type of person you might be based on their assumptions. So it is essential to approach every situation with confidence, so even if you don’t believe so, it will come off that you are confident to that person. Even if you aren’t quite yet.

    When it comes to confidence, sometimes it’s okay to fake the funk. Becoming confident can be challenging at first, but that’s totally normal. Even if you must fake it at first, continue to do so until confidence becomes a part of who you are daily. Walk in every room as you own it.

    This is where respect is earned and determines how others will treat you. This does not mean you must prove your worth to anyone, but you must be it. Ensuring you are not treated otherwise is a part of trusting in yourself. Remember, you can be confident without being arrogant.

    This is important because it lets people know you mean business.

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    2. Act on your worth! Pride is one powerful tool

    Giving people the benefit of the doubt rarely works out in the long run. You tell yourself, “They’ll change,” or “They’re just going through a tough time right now”. No, they won’t. Waiting for someone to change is the biggest mistake you can make on the journey to knowing your worth. When someone shows you their true colors, BELIEVE THEM. If you say you are no longer dealing with something, keep that promise and do not look back. As a matter of fact, stand on it.

    Pro tip #1: When you first get to know someone, they’ll immediately show you their red flags.

    Demand your needs! You tell your supervisor you need requirements x, y, and z, or else you will find another job. They’ll meet them if they truly appreciate you and know you’re an asset to the company. The same thing goes for your relationships. If that person you have been dating is choosing not to give you what you need, then you let them know this will not work, etc. The one time you abandon those standards, it becomes a habit, and no one will take you seriously. Know your worth.

    Pro tip #2: Knowing your self-worth is very attractive to most and will help you avoid f*ckboys entirely.

    3. Settling only leads to poor judgment, have some dignity!

    Allowing yourself to settle will put you in a space of comfort that you’ll never be happy in. Yes, comfort can be good, but it is detrimental to the process of knowing your worth. You get used to being treated like crap and begin to think that it is normal. I would describe settling for less as “toxic comfortability.” When we hear toxic, we automatically know that it means something or a situation is not hazardous to our health. You know you deserve so much more when you have reached that point in your life.

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    Unfortunately, no one wants to be around someone who settles for less than what they deserve because people like that lack a sense of dignity. With that being said, they’ll also treat others less than what they deserve. If you feel like you are not worthy of certain things or a certain life, why should anyone else be worthy of anything? This is the exact mindset of people who don’t mind settling for whatever they can get. No one will value your opinion because they will see it unworthy, the same way you see yourself.

    4. You’ll regret not treating yourself better early on

    When others see how you view yourself, they will treat you as such, which can also lead to a continuous cycle of being taken advantage of. That should not be the reason you treat yourself as worthy, though. Once you have finally reached the point where you know your worth, you will look back on everything that you have put up with in the past. You may feel a little disappointed, but most importantly, you will feel the growth. Your life will also reflect it. That is a part of the growth process.

    Once you reach a point of disgust, that’s when you know things have changed. Almost like when you eat something and it tastes disgusting…you’ll probably never eat said food again. Surrounding yourself with people who will challenge you to improve is also an important part of the process. I almost 100% of the time want and expect a challenge from everyone around me. Everyone has to want growth.

    Know your worth, then add tax.

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    5. Have Non-Negotiables

    Non-negotiables are your boundaries that are NOT open for debate. I cannot stress the importance of setting boundaries for yourself. When people try to cross those boundaries, that is when your self-respect comes in. Figure out those non-negotiables that you will not tolerate and apply them to everyday life, then don’t look back. Know your worth, then add tax!

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    Published: August 26, 2021

    Edited: August 13, 2024