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  • Quotes To Live By: 25 Quotes For A Positive Mindset

    Quotes To Live By: 25 Quotes For A Positive Mindset

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    Here is a list of my favorite quotes to live by, that I find extremely helpful when I need a pick-me-up. Now, when you read these quotes, I want you to really process what each one means and how they can apply to you and your everyday life.

    These quotes will help to:

    • Improve your way of thinking
    • Improve your quality of life
    • Become your best self
    • Flourish from a positive mindset
    1. “Weaknesses are just strengths in the wrong environment.” – Marianne Cantwell

    “Weaknesses are just strengths in the wrong environment.”

    -Marianne cantwell

    2. “In the middle of every difficulty lies opportunity.” -Albert Einstein

    “In the middle of every difficulty lies opportunity.”

    -Albert Einstein

    3. “You’re never too broken to be fixed.” -Jonathan Van Ness

    “You’re never too broken to be fixed.”

    -Jonathan Van Ness

    4. “Don’t wait around for other people to be happy for you. Any happiness you get you’ve got to make yourself.” -Alice Walker

    Don’t wait around for other people to be happy for you. Any happiness you get you’ve got to make yourself.”

    -Alice Walker

    5. “Failure is a word unknown to me.” -Mohammad Ali Jinnah

    “Failure is a word unknown to me.”

    -Mohammad Ali Jinnah

    6. “A person who never makes mistakes, never tries anything new.” -Albert Einstein

    “A person who never makes mistakes, never tries anything new.”

    -Albert Einstein

    7. “It always seems impossible until it’s done.” -Nelson Mandela

    “It always seems impossible until it’s done.”

    -Nelson Mandela

    8. “Not in doing what you like, but liking what you do is the secret of happiness.” -J. M. Barrie

    “Not in doing what you like, but liking what you do is the secret of happiness.”

    -J. M. Barrie

    9. “Friends are siblings God never gave us.” -Mecius

    “Friends are siblings God never gave us.”

    -Mecius

    10. “The best way to keep one’s word is to not give it.” -Napoleon Bonaparte

    “The best way to keep one’s word is to not give it.”

    -Napoleon Bonaparte

    11. “Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward.” -C. S. Lewis

    “Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward.”

    -C. S. Lewis

    12. “The best revenge is massive success.” -Frank Sinatra

    “The best revenge is massive success.”

    -Frank Sinatra

    13. “We build too many walls and not enough bridges.” -Isaac Newton

    “We build too many walls and not enough bridges.”

    -Isaac Newton

    14. “If there’s a book you want to read, but it hasn’t been written yet. then you must be the one to write it.” -Toni Morrison

    “If there’s a book you want to read, but it hasn’t been written yet, then you must be the one to write it.”

    -Toni Morrison

    15. “For every minute you’re angry, you lose 60 seconds of happiness.” -Ralph Waldo Emerson

    “For every minute you’re angry, you lose 60 seconds of happiness.”

    -Ralph Waldo Emerson

    16. “Inner experience is the only source of human knowledge.” -Allama Igbal

    “Inner experience is the only source of human knowledge.”

    -Allama Igbal

    17. “It takes 20 years to build a reputation and five minutes to ruin it. If you think about that, you’ll do things differently.” -Warren Buffett

    “It takes 20 years to build a reputation and five minutes to ruin it. If you think about that, you’ll do things differently.”

    -Warren Buffett

    18. “Happiness is not by chance, but by choice.” -Jim Robin

    “Happiness is not by chance, but by choice.”

    -Jim Robin

    19. “If you’re serious about changing your life, you’ll find a way. If you’re not, you’ll find an excuse.” -Jen Sincero

    “If you’re serious about changing your life, you’ll find a way. If you’re not, you’ll find an excuse.”

    -Jen Sincero

    20. “You must have long-term goals to keep you from being frustrated by short-term failures.” -Charles C. Noble

    “You must have long-term goals to keep you from being frustrated by short-term failures.”

    -Charles C. Noble

    21. “As someone starts telling you to “be realistic”, cross that person off your invitation list.” -John Eliot

    “As someone starts telling you to “be realistic”, cross that person off your invitation list.”

    -John Eliot

    22. “Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.” -Oprah Winfrey

    “Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.”

    -Oprah Winfrey

    23. “Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed, citizens can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has.” -Margaret Mead

    “Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed, citizens can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has.”

    -Margaret Mead

    24. “Someone is sitting in the shade today because someone planted a tree a long time ago.” -Warren Buffett

    “Someone is sitting in the shade today because someone planted a tree a long time ago.”

    -Warren Buffett

    25. “Anyone who stops learning is old, whether at twenty or eighty. Anyone who keeps learning stays young.” -Henry Ford

    “Anyone who stops learning is old, whether at twenty or eighty. Anyone who keeps learning stays young.”

    -Henry Ford

    Thank you for reading. Drop your favorite quote or a quote of your own below!

  • 10 Questions For A Personal Growth Challenge

    10 Questions For A Personal Growth Challenge

    Here is a list of ten questions I asked myself that you can also ask yourself if you feel you may need to heal or for your own personal development and growth. Write down your answers to each question and really reflect on how to move forward in your own way.

    1. Why am I allowing myself to be treated this way?

    The way you allow others to treat you has everything to do with your self-esteem, self-love, and self-respect; which is something I struggled with for a while. Without those three components, it can be hard to see yourself as somewhat valuable. If you don’t see yourself that way, then no one else will.

    2. What are my flaws?

    Being able to identify and analyze your flaws is an easy step to becoming the best version of yourself. It’s a plus when you can also identify the root of each flaw so that it makes it easier to get rid of. A flaw of mine is I tend to shut down and disappear because I want to avoid conflict. I also detach easily, to avoid getting hurt.

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    3. How do you see yourself?

    I said this before and I’m going to keep saying it. How you view yourself sets the tone for how others view you. When you see your worth, you’ll stop seeing people who don’t.

    4. What habits are hindering your growth?

    These habits include things that are slowing you down and can easily be avoided with discipline. For me, I stopped smoking, stopped carelessly drinking, limited my tv consumption, and giving so much of my time to certain people. Although there are many more, dropping these alone gave me so much progress.

    5. Are you living for others or for yourself?

    When I began making my own decisions that I thought were the best for me, is when I became happier. I stopped listening to my parents or anyone else who had an opinion on what they thought I should’ve been doing. Yes, some people have experience and wisdom but they don’t have the path to your life in their back pocket.

    6. Who are letting have access to you that shouldn’t?

    Cleansing your environment of toxic things and people is detrimental to personal growth. Individuals who aren’t on the same wavelength as you won’t contribute to you in any way. In fact, their ways might rub off on you. You should always spend more time with people who bring out the best in you. How can you grow with someone who has an unwillingness to elevate?

    7. Are you accepting the bare minimum?

    It wasn’t until recently that I realized that the red flags you ignore in the beginning are always the reason things end. When someone shows you who they are the first time, it’s literally who they are it’s not a façade. If you accept the bare minimum in the beginning, you will always get the bare minimum. Set a standard and stick to it, this is a part of knowing your worth. When you choose to settle for less than you know you deserve, then maybe less is what you truly deserve.

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    8. How far are you willing to let things get worse?

    How did we let it get this far? At some point you have to really sit down and tell yourself, I don’t want this for myself any longer. When it came to a certain situation, I let things get so bad I didn’t know who I was anymore. And from that point on, things didn’t go any farther.

    9. Does everyone deserve a second chance?

    This question is to your own discretion. Personally, I don’t see any harm in second chances depending on the situation of course. A third and fourth chance is just giving people the opportunity to play with you. I had to learn the hard way that nothing good comes out of chances that come in 3s or more. Giving people the benefit of the doubt is nice but stupid.

    10. How do you spend most of your free time?

    When I sat back and realized that most of my free time was spent doing the bad habits I talked about in question #4, I realized that I was never going to get where I needed to be. So I cut them out one by one and I don’t even feel like the same person most of the time. Someone once told me, that your future depends on your everyday habits.

  • The Significance Of Failure Vs The Fear Of Failure

    The Significance Of Failure Vs The Fear Of Failure

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    The fear of failure is the number one reason people are unhappy with their lives, because they didn’t even give themselves the chance the fail. When you want to start a new journey in life, but you are so afraid it will fail so you don’t even pursue it. You are hindering yourself tremendously from any potential growth. After all, that is what growth is all about–learning from the mistakes you make and moving strategically going forward. The motto for She Informs is “With every experience…comes growth!”, and without experience and countless amounts of failure…I wouldn’t have learned so much about myself and probably would never have started my blog in the first place.

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    “Failure is not the opposite of success, it’s part of success. When you realize that, you free yourself from the fear of failure. In life, failure is inevitable. And the best leaders learn from their failure.”

    -Arianna Huffington

    We cannot let others cloud our judgment.

    I know a lot of people who tend to care too much about what others think and that is one of the reasons we are so scared to fail. Specifically, if you grew up in a “failure is not an option” household. It puts an overwhelming amount of pressure on you that in some circumstances, can lead to failure without you even knowing it. One thing I’ve realized is that if we continue to live our lives based on what other people think or how they tell us to live our lives, it usually results in unhappiness or maybe even depression.

    Sometimes when I’ve experienced failure, I used to feel embarrassed to tell anyone. It’s usually not until later that I’ve realized and had time to reflect on everything I’ve taken from it and use it as a learning lesson. When we see our failures as learning lessons, we will no longer have a problem with failure.

    “Your twenties will produce more failure than you’ll choose to remember. The key is: when you fail, don’t begin calling yourself a failure.”

    -Paul Agone

    According to Paul Agone, failing means you’re simply finding a more profound way to be successful. That sentence alone is the reason I chose to take control of my life no matter what anyone thinks. If I fail not only is it on me, but I take every setback as a learning lesson for the next step to success. It’s better to fail while trying than to not try at all. If someone tells you “Women can’t do that” or “Men aren’t supposed to do that”, prove them wrong! Even if things don’t always work out, people will look up to you and be inspired by you, because you did what they couldn’t.

    Check out my post on double standards, so we can kill the narrative!

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    Just because you fail at it, doesn’t mean it’s not for you.

    When something doesn’t go as planned, how do we decide to take that failure and move strategically? To keep going, keep attempting, or accept the fact that it was not meant for us and move on? For me, I like to look at the reason that caused the failure because I know something wasn’t meant for me. In some instances, distractions might come up that can lead to failure. In other instances, your heart just might not be in it, which can also lead to failure. It’s up to you to determine the root and act on it. If you feel you fail at something because you’re bad at it, work on perfecting it if it is something you so truly want. Cooking, sewing, hair, painting, singing, writing papers, whatever it is, there’s someone out there who’s well versed in it. Find what you want to do and perfect your craft. So far, I’ve learned that education is one of the most powerful tools, and in this day and age, it’s right at our fingertips. Failure is our biggest teacher.

    Letting the fear of failure stop you from your wildest dreams.

    My friend was recently telling me how she wanted to study abroad, in London. She also told me she didn’t even know if school was the right thing for her. My only advice was that you never truly know unless you try. If and when you try, if you fail, you cannot say you did not at least try because you never know where it might’ve taken you. After all, I think that is the ultimate failure; letting the potential of failure stop you from the things you truly want to pursue in life. We sometimes find ourselves so afraid of what “might” happen, that we never let ourselves find out what “will” happen. Sadly, I believe that is why most people do not chase their dreams or become who they truly want to be as a whole.

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  • “Know Your Worth Then Add Tax” What Does This Phrase Mean?

    “Know Your Worth Then Add Tax” What Does This Phrase Mean?

    Know your worth, then add tax. What does this mean? It begins with confidence, self-respect, self-worth, and boundaries. These three simple components will help you dodge a lot of chaos in life. Let’s discuss these components and the steps to knowing your worth.

    Living in a scarcity mindset will make you settle for less than you deserve, be undervalued, and rationalize it. You must believe believe it first. You can’t add taxes when the product is free in the first place.

    1. Set the tone

    First impressions last forever. Keep that in mind the first time you introduce yourself to someone. That is when people begin to form the idea of what type of person you might be based on their assumptions. So it is essential to approach every situation with confidence, so even if you don’t believe so, it will come off that you are confident to that person. Even if you aren’t quite yet.

    When it comes to confidence, sometimes it’s okay to fake the funk. Becoming confident can be challenging at first, but that’s totally normal. Even if you must fake it at first, continue to do so until confidence becomes a part of who you are daily. Walk in every room as you own it.

    This is where respect is earned and determines how others will treat you. This does not mean you must prove your worth to anyone, but you must be it. Ensuring you are not treated otherwise is a part of trusting in yourself. Remember, you can be confident without being arrogant.

    This is important because it lets people know you mean business.

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    2. Act on your worth! Pride is one powerful tool

    Giving people the benefit of the doubt rarely works out in the long run. You tell yourself, “They’ll change,” or “They’re just going through a tough time right now”. No, they won’t. Waiting for someone to change is the biggest mistake you can make on the journey to knowing your worth. When someone shows you their true colors, BELIEVE THEM. If you say you are no longer dealing with something, keep that promise and do not look back. As a matter of fact, stand on it.

    Pro tip #1: When you first get to know someone, they’ll immediately show you their red flags.

    Demand your needs! You tell your supervisor you need requirements x, y, and z, or else you will find another job. They’ll meet them if they truly appreciate you and know you’re an asset to the company. The same thing goes for your relationships. If that person you have been dating is choosing not to give you what you need, then you let them know this will not work, etc. The one time you abandon those standards, it becomes a habit, and no one will take you seriously. Know your worth.

    Pro tip #2: Knowing your self-worth is very attractive to most and will help you avoid f*ckboys entirely.

    3. Settling only leads to poor judgment, have some dignity!

    Allowing yourself to settle will put you in a space of comfort that you’ll never be happy in. Yes, comfort can be good, but it is detrimental to the process of knowing your worth. You get used to being treated like crap and begin to think that it is normal. I would describe settling for less as “toxic comfortability.” When we hear toxic, we automatically know that it means something or a situation is not hazardous to our health. You know you deserve so much more when you have reached that point in your life.

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    Unfortunately, no one wants to be around someone who settles for less than what they deserve because people like that lack a sense of dignity. With that being said, they’ll also treat others less than what they deserve. If you feel like you are not worthy of certain things or a certain life, why should anyone else be worthy of anything? This is the exact mindset of people who don’t mind settling for whatever they can get. No one will value your opinion because they will see it unworthy, the same way you see yourself.

    4. You’ll regret not treating yourself better early on

    When others see how you view yourself, they will treat you as such, which can also lead to a continuous cycle of being taken advantage of. That should not be the reason you treat yourself as worthy, though. Once you have finally reached the point where you know your worth, you will look back on everything that you have put up with in the past. You may feel a little disappointed, but most importantly, you will feel the growth. Your life will also reflect it. That is a part of the growth process.

    Once you reach a point of disgust, that’s when you know things have changed. Almost like when you eat something and it tastes disgusting…you’ll probably never eat said food again. Surrounding yourself with people who will challenge you to improve is also an important part of the process. I almost 100% of the time want and expect a challenge from everyone around me. Everyone has to want growth.

    Know your worth, then add tax.

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    5. Have Non-Negotiables

    Non-negotiables are your boundaries that are NOT open for debate. I cannot stress the importance of setting boundaries for yourself. When people try to cross those boundaries, that is when your self-respect comes in. Figure out those non-negotiables that you will not tolerate and apply them to everyday life, then don’t look back. Know your worth, then add tax!

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    Published: August 26, 2021

    Edited: August 13, 2024